Remote Control Fingering Vibrating Dildo - Aubergine 12.5 cm

A finger that never gets tired

Most vibrating dildos do one thing: they vibrate. This one does two. Its upper section flexes forward and back, on a loop, recreating the push-and-release of a finger working inside you. Strap-On-Me calls this fingering, and it's the whole point of this model.

Two separate motors run at the same time: one for the motion, one for the vibration. You can run them together or apart, with 3 fingering modes, 3 vibration modes and 5 intensity levels for each. A Boost button on the remote sends everything to full power in one press, no need to click through every level.

The shape isn't decorative. The pronounced curve and bulbous tip are built to press against the prostate, and that's where the flexing motion earns its keep: instead of fixed pressure, you get pressure that moves back and forth over exactly the right spot. The wide, flared base keeps everything stable, makes anal use safer, and clips into a Strap-On-Me harness.

Why you'll love it

The motion actually changes something. Vibration alone saturates after a while: after a few minutes, nerve endings adjust and the perceived intensity drops. Fingering keeps things fresh because the pressure keeps moving. Put both together and you get a toy that's genuinely hard to compare to a standard vibrator.

The remote frees your hands. Range is rated up to 10 metres, and it's rechargeable just like the toy - no hunting for a coin battery on a Sunday night. Keep it beside you, or hand it over.

It's hands-free. Once it's in place, the flared base holds it there. You don't need to hold it steady - lie back, touch yourself, or do something else entirely while it works.

The size is sensible. 12.5 cm insertable and 4 cm in diameter: comfortable for anyone with a bit of anal experience already, without being a challenge. This is a pleasure toy, not an endurance test.

IPX7, so genuinely waterproof. Shower, bath, and a rinse under the tap without worrying about the electronics.

How to use it

Charge it fully before first use. Allow up to 175 minutes for a full charge, for around 55 minutes of runtime. Charge the remote too - it's a separate rechargeable accessory.

Water-based lubricant is a must. The toy is silicone: a silicone lubricant would attack the surface and leave it sticky and porous, permanently. No oil either. Water only, and don't be stingy - for anal play, you always need more than you think, and you'll want to top it up as you go.

Take it slow. Give yourself time to relax first, with fingers or a slimmer toy. Insert it slowly with the motors off. Once it's in place and you're comfortable, switch on - it's far more pleasant than inserting it already running.

Angle the curve forward, towards your belly button. That's the position that brings the tip into contact with the prostate. If you're not feeling much, rotate slightly rather than pushing deeper - it's almost always about angle, not depth.

Start on the slow modes. The faster fingering modes are intense from the off. Build up gradually, and save Boost for when you really need it.

In a harness, the base is compatible with Strap-On-Me harnesses. Your partner wears the harness, you keep the remote - or the other way round, which is where things get interesting.

What it brings to the bedroom

Solo, this is the kind of toy that makes prostate orgasms accessible without any coordination effort. Put it in, lie back, control it with one hand. Plenty of guys who've never felt anything clear from their prostate discover it with a motorised toy, simply because the stimulation stays steady where a hand tires and loses rhythm.

With a partner, the remote is the real toy. Handing over control means handing over the rhythm. Your guy decides when it ramps up, when it eases off, when he hits Boost. It's an easy power dynamic to set up, no extra gear or complicated negotiation needed, and it works just as well during foreplay as mid-action.

With 10 metres of range, it can also stay switched on while you're both doing something else - in the next room, over dinner, before you head out. How far you push the game is up to you.

In a harness, it turns a standard pegging session into something richer: the one penetrating feels the vibrations through the harness, the one receiving gets both the motion and the vibration. Nobody's just watching.

And it's perfect during a blowjob or a handjob. Motorised prostate stimulation plus direct stimulation is what produces the most intense orgasms for most guys. This toy is designed to be used alongside everything else, not instead of it.

Care, charging and lubricant

Before and after every use, wash it in warm water with a mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. IPX7 waterproofing means you can rinse it straight under the tap. Dry it completely before storing, especially around the flexing hinge.

Don't boil it and don't put it in the dishwasher. This is a motorised toy: IPX7 protects against submersion, not heat or pressure.

Water-based lubricant only. This is the rule that matters most. Silicone on silicone degrades the surface and the toy becomes unusable. There's no fixing it afterwards, so check your lubricant's label first.

Store it on its own in the cotton pouch provided. Silicone attracts dust and can react when left in prolonged contact with other silicone toys of a different formulation. The pouch solves both problems.

For the battery, avoid leaving it flat for months at a time. A top-up charge every two or three months, even without use, will keep the battery going much longer.

If you're sharing it, a condom over it takes care of cleaning between partners.

Technical specifications

FAQ — Your questions, answered

Q: What exactly is the fingering function?

A: The upper part of the dildo flexes forward and returns to position, on a loop. It's not a rotation or a thrusting motion: it's a flex, pressing and releasing inside you the way a finger would. Three different rhythms are available.

Q: Is it suitable for anal beginners?

A: At 4 cm in diameter, this isn't a first toy. If you're just starting out, begin with something slimmer and come back to this one later. If you've already got a bit of experience, the size works well.

Q: Can I use my usual silicone lubricant?

A: No. It would permanently damage the toy's surface. Water-based lubricant only.

Q: Does the remote work through a wall?

A: The stated range is 10 metres in open space. Through a partition wall it usually still works, but the real-world range drops. Don't build an entire scenario around it without testing it at home first.

Q: What mode does the 55-minute runtime apply to?

A: That's a manufacturer maximum. Running both motors together at high intensity, expect noticeably less. Charge it beforehand to avoid a frustrating end to the evening.